A free gift for Valentine's Day

My mother-in-law, Dian Bustillo, first learned astrology as a kindergarten teacher, as a way to understand and to connect better with each student. She later became an astrologer and astrology teacher. She was my first astrology teacher, and as soon as she learned I had an interest she started giving me freebies: My first ephemeris; a subscription to The Mountain Astrologer magazine; a hand-made personal planner with the astrological aspects for each day.

Dian has a Leo moon and an outrageously generous nature. For my birthday this year I asked her to knit me a long, chunky scarf. She used my favorite color and somehow figured out how to knit a big “A” into the design. I didn’t know that at 42 it would be so exciting to get clothing with my own initial, but as an astrologer Dian has an inside track into understanding my Aries rising.

Her birthday is Friday, and in honor of her and in the spirit of Valentine’s Day tomorrow, I’m sharing my Parenting with Astrology webinar free through February 15th with the code LOVE. From what I can tell, grandparenting comes naturally. But as a parent, it’s helped me to have some tools. :)

I hope it’ll help you understand and connect better with the ones you love, too.

Reflection before the Aries sun

Mars entered Capricorn yesterday. With the moon in Aries until 9:06 p.m. EDT today, seven planetary bodies are now in cardinal signs, which have the energy of beginning. But the sun, representing a changing, deepening self, is still in the mutable water sign Pisces until tomorrow at around noon. So how can we be flexible until then? How can intuition, imagination, forgiveness, and love guide us and help us sense what’s important to give effort and energy to?

Pisces is hard on the ego. Pisces can be cloudy, murky. Lyndon has natal Mercury in Pisces and at Parent-Teacher conferences last week his teacher said, “I just don’t want next year’s teacher to wonder, ‘What is going on in Lyndon’s head?’” While the sun has been in Pisces I’ve been wondering what’s been going on in my head, too. I haven’t been sure what’s so important, where I fit in, or what I should do. I’ve been wanting to sleep more, have a drink, or watch TV. It’s an uncomfortable space for me. I’d rather be sure of myself and moving forward.

Tomorrow is the vernal equinox and in the Northern Hemisphere day will start to be longer than night. The Aries sun will represent action and courage for all of us. For me, a fire sign with an Aries Ascendant, that’s a bit of a relief. Finally. Let’s get going again. Please get me off my couch.

But I’ve rushed into the wrong things before. I’ve asserted myself too harshly or defended myself too strongly or gone forward too naively and been pulled back. So can the experience of this past month of Pisces help me go forward in confidence but not aggression, with courage but not fear? Can it help me remember kindness, imagination, and space?

I think so. I hope so. But if I happen to forget and seem a little stressed, please remind me that there’s nothing wrong with spending a few quiet moments on the couch.

Being your own boss: The moon in Capricorn

Today the moon is in Capricorn, the sign of self-discipline, integrity, and mastery. Today is a chance to integrate what we’ve been working hard at with how we truly feel.

Check in with yourself. Give yourself a progress report. What are your greatest accomplishments? Has anything been exhausting you lately? Are you sticking with it because it’s important to you or because of a “should” you’ve outgrown?

Sometimes we have no control. Life is simply sad or hard, and we react humanly rather than stoically. We get worn down. We lose hope. We’re stopped in our tracks. But sometimes we stop ourselves in our tracks with fear or inertia. We lose imagination. We forget to expand.

Today the moon joins with Pluto, symbolically bringing what’s unconscious to our emotional attention. Spend some time with it, even if it’s uncomfortable. There’s something we need to see, transform, or release in order to move forward from a place of true authority and power.

Move intentionally through the day, so that you’re not overly harsh with yourself or others if you have a setback. If you experience that energy from others, know that there’s a lot going on beneath the surface. Don’t internalize crap that doesn’t belong to you. Be aware of any moments you need to draw boundaries for your own mental health and stability.

As you go through your day, work with the supporting energy of Jupiter to understand what comes up and reframe it in wisdom and hope. Hard work and focus can lead to freedom, success, and joy. But first, define what’s worth the time and effort to you.  

(Moon conjunct Pluto 2:21 p.m. EST. Moon sextile Jupiter in Scorpio 6:41 p.m.)

 

When you realize you've been stuck: The Leo moon and the Aquarius sun

Today I’m thinking of the qualities of the Aquarius sun and the Leo moon: Fixed air and fixed fire.

I caught myself holding my breath yesterday. I was walking quickly to my job from several blocks away, where I had found parking. I was worried I’d be late. I decided to jog instead, clumsily, in knee-high boots, trying to avoid patches of ice. I took huge breaths as I did, partly because I’m out of shape, and partly because I made myself. Getting to work on time didn’t matter to me as much as remembering to breathe did. It felt so good to take deep breaths.

As the moon spends its final hours in Leo today, think about where you may have become fixed in air or in fire. Try not to judge yourself – just observe.

Is my breath caught inside me right now? How about my ideas or words?

Is passion stuck inside me? How about anger or love?

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The heart and the head: The Cancer moon and the Aquarius sun

Today asks us to let the right and left sides of our brain speak to each other. The watery, emotional Cancer moon is safety-seeking, protective, and heart-centered. But the airy, logical Aquarius sun and Venus seek conversation, information, and breakthrough. Aquarius examines and then challenges. It helps us break out of traditional ways of being that either oppress us or simply don’t reflect us. How can we balance such different energies?

Spend some time today taking care of yourself. Tune into your feelings. Listen to your intuition. Allow yourself a creative outlet or a cuddle. It will just feel good.

And also, listen. There are new ideas we need to hear and incorporate. Some of them will be shocking and uncomfortable. How can we feel safe and yet also be open to change? If you feel the fight-or-flight instinct arise in you, can you explore it with someone you trust?

We may all feel somewhat frayed or vulnerable today. If you interact with someone who lashes out or has heavy defenses, try not to internalize it. We’re all in a phase of recovery.

Aim to balance conversation with silence, the external with the internal, the large collective with the safest clan.

(Moon trine Neptune in Pisces 10:18 a.m. EST. Moon opposite Pluto in Capricorn 9:34 p.m. Moon trine Jupiter in Scorpio 11:38 p.m.)

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With four planets in Capricorn right now, how can steadiness, patience, and integrity empower you, focus you, calm you, and define you? Which relationships have lasted and why? Are they truly satisfying or life-giving? How do you define adulthood? How do you seek or achieve solitude? Who helps you get things done or quietly does them in the background?

Today’s Leo moon is good for expressing appreciation. Take a moment to appreciate your own persistence in an area that matters to you. Take a moment to see someone who has helped you endure.

When Mercury and Saturn have a Talk

Mercury and Saturn joined together early this morning. This could go a number of ways. Two are a sobering of the mind or an insight that helps you understand the heaviness you’ve been laboring under. This happens about once a year but since Mercury will turn retrograde on December 3rd, we’ll experience this aspect three times in two months.

Mercury represents youth, speed, curiosity, and language. Saturn represents age, integrity, duty, and structure. Mercury wants unlimited options and Saturn wants to stick with the plan. But too much Saturn can be deadening. Every once in a while it helps to examine why we’ve been marching along, doing the things that are boring, hard, or grown up. Do we simply have to right now because of difficult circumstances? Are there options we haven’t noticed?

If you’re a Saturnian person, doing the stable or hard thing might feel satisfying. If you’re more Mercurial, you’ll be happier with movement and change. Today take some time to think about what’s more comfortable for you. Imagine whether Saturn or Mercury has had more of an imprint on your life overall and recently. While the moon is still in Pisces, imagine Saturn and Mercury talking to each other or to you. Would it comfort you more right now to be with someone who’s older and wiser or someone who’s clever and fun?

If you haven’t had enough stability or enough change, set goals to bring yourself into a balance that aligns with your values. Write yourself an inspirational note, a poem, or even a love letter. And if someone has stuck by you or helped you through something difficult, reach out to let them know you see them and you’re grateful.

(Mercury conjunct Saturn 1:58 a.m. EST. Moon trine Venus 4:41 a.m. Moon square Saturn 6:55 a.m. Moon square Mercury 7:08 a.m. Moon void of course 7:08 to 11:30 a.m. Moon enters Aries 11:30 a.m.)